There are some questions that you need to ask your partner that will not only help you get to know him better, but they will also make you understand how he thinks.
1. What is his dream job/passion?
You should also be able to answer this question about your partner. If, for example, he hopes to become an entrepreneur someday. And he comes to you one day to say he’s considering quitting his job, you will both communicate better when you know where he’s coming from. Also, knowing his hopes for the future is important because you have to ensure they work with yours too.
2. How does he cope with stress?
While some lash out under stressful situations, others tend to withdraw into a shell. We all deal with stress differently. And being able to read your each other’s behavior enough to tell when one person is being pushed to the limit can be good for your relationship.
3. How does he deal with anger?
This is also an emotion we all handle differently. Can you say for a fact that you know how your partner handles anger? There are going to be instances in a marriage where you’ll both get angry. If his solution is to do something crazy like hit you or throw things, you know to reconsider being married to him. And if you cannot answer this question at all, then you haven’t learned as much about him as you should.
4. What does he expect from his spouse?
We all have certain things we want our partners to provide. And they are not always as straightforward as companionship and security. When he thinks about marriage, what kinds of things does he envision? When you both know what to expect from each other, you become even clearer about whether or not this is the person you really want to spend your life with.