Five Easy ways to get over an Ex after a break up

Getting over a heart break from an ex, is most times difficult to handle, the feelings of sheer shock, rejection and self-pity are bound to raise their ugly heads after one has been dumped.

The following these five steps, one can get over the horrible experience of getting dumped.

Do not hold on to the hope of reuniting

It’s convenient to hold onto the hope that things can somehow work out between you and your ex. Thinking this way even after getting dumped isn’t crazy.

The human mind is accustomed to routines and familiarity. Hence, after a breakup, your mind might find it difficulty accepting that the routine and familiarity of the relationship with your ex has come to an end.

Your mind might attempt to create the illusion of getting back together just to make feel safe again and avoid the pain of a break up.

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Allow yourself go through every stage of your personal grief

Call up a close friend, treat yourself to a spa date, take a trip, but whatever you do, avoid suppressing the pain with denial or harmful substances.

Grief comes in various stages and every individual has a unique way of getting over hard times. Find out what your grieving patterns are and follow through them as long as they’re healthy.

If you suspect you cannot contain your emotions, contact friends, family or a certified therapist to aid.

Resist the temptation of contacting your ex

The urge to want to contact your ex is not an unusual feeling. However, it is best to cut off completely or at least minimize contact with your ex.

This precaution should be initiated whether or not you have the intention of keeping in contact with your ex.

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You both need time and space away from each other to properly process your feelings and decide the next steps to take in your separate individual lives.

Depending on the circumstances surrounding your break up, should you be skeptical about your ability to keep off your ex, admonish your friends to help out. Delete (maybe block) social media pages, phone numbers, email address etc of each other. This way, the temptation of dialling, messaging, emailing or texting is slimmer.

Make sure to be attentive to the lessons learnt

The worst thing an individual can do to themselves romantically, is to ignore the lessons each romantic relationship teaches.

As you process your grief, also be alert to recognize and note the errors made from both sides in the relationship and learn from them.

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Move on and Get out there

Now you have finally grieved, learnt valuable lessons, and gotten over your ex, it is time for you to go back into the romantic pool.

Whether you decide to date again, or remain single, you’ll need to let go of your ex. Sure, some couples choose to remain friends after breaking up but this can back-fire.

Whatever decision you make after a break up, put your feelings first and ask yourself how making that decision affects you in the long run.

Remember, getting dumped does not mean you are silly, unworthy, ugly, not enough. It simple means things didn’t work out. Therefore, do not be so hard on yourself.

Source: TheCable


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